Teaching kids to understand their thoughts, longings, desires, and emotions helps them observe why they do the things they do. Humility in a child’s life includes learning to serve others, listen, desire growth, honesty, see life through the lens of invitations rather than inconveniences, want the best for others, and manage emotions. 

“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction—the satisfaction of having genuinely loved another.” - Chapman, G. D. (2010). The five love languages.